FAQ's - The Other Disputant

What if the other person/s doesn’t want to go to mediation?

It is fairly common for people to be nervous about mediation or to lack an understanding of how it works. The mediator will work with the contacting party to evaluate whether mediation is appropriate. All individuals must then contact the mediator separately in order to begin the mediation process. It is often necessary to educate everyone regarding how mediation differs from counseling and/or the legal system. The mediator will assist with this upon being contacted.  See our page on Preparing for Mediation for additional information.

The person with whom I am disputing contacted you first. Since they told you their story first, does that mean you'll take their side?

No. Mediators do not take sides regardless of who contacted the mediator first or who shared their story with the mediator first. Before actual mediation begins, the mediator makes sure to speak with everyone separately on the telephone to find out some basic information about the conflict and to answer any questions or concerns anyone may have. The mediator will also meet with each of you individually before scheduling an actual mediation session.  See FAQ's on the Mediation process for more information or Preparing for Mediation for additional information on this general topic.